"What other people think of me is none of my business. One of the highest places you can get to is being independent of the good opinions of other people." - Wayne Dyer
The above quote perfectly summarises what's on my mind right now. It's 2020 and other people's opinions seem to be expressed louder by the day! They are also more easily expressed thanks to social media and the snippets we see of everyone's life that we simply assume are their entire life! But where do all of these opinions leave us when we are searching for OUR own happy?
Here is the thing; you will never ever know what somebody thinks of you, even when they tell you what it is. Here is why:
People's motivation to tell you their opinion can have varying angles
People's mood (based on research by the way) not only has an impact on how people remember past events in their life, it also can change their opinion of you on the day no matter how nice you are being!
And finally, some people chose to stay quiet regarding certain topics and your assumption that this is a certain type of opinion can be very wrong
Buying into what others sell you; their happiness, their lifestyle, their home, their beliefs is so dangerous. Because you are just borrowing someone else's happiness. It's so important for these things to be your own rather than someone else's idea of what happiness is. And here is the thing: what happens next time you see someone else with a another version of their happiness, their lifestyle, their home, their beliefs and you change yours to now be more reflective of that?
I would love for you to reflect on these thoughts today:
Who would you be if you continuously changed what you like, dislike and agree with to please other people?
Could you still listen to your own version of happy while following others?
Who would you be if you simple chose to do what you truly want to do, independent of the opinion of other people?
To go into this topic a little deeper, check out episode 14 of the Walking Session Podcast.